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Shan and Hannah! Loved the video, love a good acronym also. Expanding our dialogue about what sex can look like between people engaging in it seems like really important work. Especially when not everyone fits the mold of what our societies seem most fascinated by. From experience, SSRIs changed how my body responded to arousal and that led to interesting discussions with partners. Like when is sex over if there is no orgasm, or rather, one partner has and another hasn’t or can’t? Or can people be satisfied and happy with the encounter if they didn’t orgasm? I feel like there is a lot of discussion of that from the frame of hetero relationships regarding women. I think there are interesting discussions to be had about the expectations we have for our partners and ourselves and how to be open about just straight up getting our needs met, whatever those might be (maybe just cuddles sometimes).
Hannah how are you able to perfectly make exactly the video I want and/or need at exactly the right time ALL THE TIME?? thank you so much though!! you’re an inspiration for me and my boyfriend ❤️❤️
Thank you so much for helping to educate everyone all the time! Much love <3
Hannah, thanks so much for talking about this! as someone with a female sexual dysfunction, I‘ve always been interested in male sexual dysfunctions as well and it’s not talked about enough.
I love this video. So, so good and informative. The topic analysed with care. Kudos to you both.
YES! Two of my favourite online sexual educators collabing together! #perfection
I wonder how much oversexed society and porn abuse could affect erectile dysfunction.
I think they affect it pretty heavily.
The second partner I ever had experienced ED during our first time together…it was NOT a fun experience. We were both really inexperienced and insecure, and he ended up partially blaming it on my „lack of technique“ (again: I was very inexperienced and really took this to heart) and then didn‘t talk to me for a week because he was so embarrassed about the whole thing. So yeah, communication and compassion would have been good ideas, but we were both too young and too stupid to manage that at the time.
This is wonderful, I think this is a very important discussion to have. I also feel like there needs to be more of a conversation about the fact that people with vulvas also experience sexual disfunction in a similar way to erectile dysfunction; not getting lubricated, not becoming engorged, experiencing lack of sensation. Because it’s talked about very infrequently except for “just use lube”.
That emphasis on physiological weirdnesses over mental states or attraction/desire is so true; I had a partner have issues with this and legit things got better once he started eating more vegetables. That was it haha
With Shan’s point on overcorrection to now not represent and embrace people who do primarily receive pleasure and orgasm from penetration, I think a similar thing has happened with the necessity of sex in a relationship. Since we have got past the ‘Sex is the crucial thing’, some people have almost now over corrected to make it seem like people who do think sex is important in relationships are shallow. This especially comes up around conversations to do with dating people who are asexual and do not want to have sex (obviously there are asexual who enjoy sex too), and people who say they couldn’t have a relationship with no sex are seen as bad. There is more nuance needed.
Could you maybe do a video on virginity, especially about virginity in adulthood and pressures on men to lose it early? Just a suggestion 🙂 another interesting watch 😊
It happened to me when I was 17-19, it felt like a big deal at the time in my previous relationship and it was a big deal and much stress happened.
I believe it’s happened once or twice since with my fiancee I’m now 28, and we laughed about it and moved onto other stuff. It’s crazy how that emotional maturity can completely change the perception of the same complication. Love the forever informative content you put out, love your work, thank you so much!
Love this! Two of my faves! I recently had a new partner who had a little bit of ED when we were first getting into things. He’s in an open relationship and I am a new partner for him so it may have been related to that but we just kept doing other things and I didn’t make a thing of it. Afterwards he was very thankful that I was cool with it.
This is the collab I didn’t know we needed. The both of you had such a wealth of knowledge between you and I believe everyone watching can find the answers or advice they might need
The first time I experienced a partner having ED was when I was 18 with my first boyfriend. It happened a few times during our relationship.
I’ve had ED 2 times in my current 4 year relationship, and i’m 90% sure it was stress related both times.
Currently we’re trying for a baby, and the stress of “I have to cum” is… man it’s more stressful than you’d think.
Edit: Often there has also been a “time limit” as in, it’s late and we really need to get to sleep, because work
Love what Shan said about leaving space for everyone with vulvas to speak about how they reach orgasm. I’ve had partners in the past who have tried to teach me how I “should” come. Very frustrating.
I just wish they would stop exploiting heterosexual people and relationships
It’s always very uncomfortable when lesbians are talking about men’s private parts. This is not based in empathy but penis envy as they have tried to claim repetitively that having intercourse with erect penis is sexual violence against women also known as PIV.
The term sex is taken off to try to give the impression that it’s more of abuse and they’ve rename the clitoris women’s sexual organ despite sexual organs being the entire anatomy of the reproductive system.
Despite having the highest ipv violence race against women per capita and trying to blame it on internalized homophobia if anything it’s encouraged compared to gay men, they have the highest divorce rate and suffer from bed death within 2 years that they’re not even having sex.
Why are they trying to superimpose their model of relationships that don’t even work for them and have the worst outcomes of any other group on heterosexual people? M
I always feel uncomfortable when lesbians are talking about men’s private parts because everything they do will have the biased all the way through it
Don’t worry she’s one of your people
I always feel kind of uncomfortable about my body when lesbians are talking about men’s sexual private parts
I always feel uncomfortable about my body when lesbians obsess over men’s private parts.
Lol
@The Mulattos what does that have to do with anything?
Yes it fucking does, but it’s worse when you have anxiety and stress and being over weight.
I appreciate this bc we’re dealing with it now. I love my bf on the soul level. The past year he’s been experiencing ED after an health scare, is sober from alcohol & is on Zoloft since which minimizes desire, erection & climax ability. I have taken it so personally bc he doesn’t want to touch or be touched… I’m ok being with him without intercourse but with almost no other physical touch is so hurtful for me. We live together so it’s a daily stress for both of us.