Gabor Maté CENTIMETERS (birthed January 6, 1944) is a Hungarian-born Canadian physician. He has a history in family medicine and also a special rate of interest in youth advancement as well as injury, as well as in their possible lifelong influence on physical as well as psychological wellness, consisting of on autoimmune illness, cancer, ADHD, dependencies, and also a wide variety of other problems.
Now retired from professional method, he takes a trip and also speaks extensively on these and connected topics, both in The United States and Canada as well as abroad. His publications have actually been published globally in over twenty-five languages. Maté's strategy to addiction concentrates on the injury his patients have endured and also wants to address this in their recuperation, with special regard to aboriginal populations around the world.
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This is why we need classes in schools like Personal Improvement & Growth; this, along with Personal Finance and Psychology are good for raising healthy adults.
“Angry little kids don’t get loved” you just described my childhood my friend!
I love this man
I used to suppress and ignore any ill feeling or anger in my life up until I became depressed at 19, from then I imploded and eventually after years of that started expressing myself. Maybe I’m more angry nowadays however I respect myself, I don’t need to be liked and feel way more authentic. Fuxking go for it if you’re a people pleaser. Read no more mr nice guy especially if you’re a man and stop fucking pandering to others. Life’s too short! Live for you!
This is so important…People often associate addiction with alcohol, drugs and stuff like that. But addiction can mean a lot of things. I developed an ED and I get “high” on the feeling of my empty stomach and the dizziness that comes with a few days of not eating. That’s why its completely useless in this cases to just tell someone eat more or eat less, because its not about the food, its about the behaviour and the addiction behind it.
I’m currently a meth addict in recovery. I relapsed yesterday night into the morning. I’ve been smokin dope since I was 15 first time I used it was 2 days before my 15th birthday as well as smoked black. I’m dependent on weed to help keep me calm Nd stable. I struggle with bipolar disorder. I just started takin meds again. Im doin really well I’m happy consistently workin out Nd I’m actually bouta graduate high school this year on time. I’m so grateful for that. I really didn’t think it was possible. Im never gonna give up no matter how hard it gets I will forever try to be and stay sober. I want a better healthier life for myself Nd the people around me
As a recovering heroin addict, this is the most accurate description I have ever heard of the feelings of isolation, conflict, and loss that accompany addiction.
The feeling that who you are is somehow fundamentally wrong, or irreparably broken is deep seated, and almost certainly existed long before you were ever an addict.
My whole life, I felt alone, broken, confused, and lost. The first time I ever did heroin, it was as if those feelings were washed away. I no longer worried if I was broken; I didn’t care.
Unfortunately, this feeling of being whole is fleeting, yielding to that familiar fear as the high fades. Unable to bear facing these emotions again, you try to get back to that feeling of being whole, but it never quite feels the same. Eventually, physical dependence takes hold, and those feelings of fear and loneliness are amplified as withdrawal sets in, just as the drug loses its ability to suppress these feelings.
This plunges you further into depression and isolation. As you begin to see yourself as a junkie, any self worth you did have crumbles into dust. I felt worthless, even when high. I felt as if I wasn’t worth helping, wasn’t worth the energy. If I felt this way about myself, why would anyone else care about me?
Unfortunately, this creates a positive feedback loop of worthlessness and depression, which you attempt to numb through further drug use.
I can almost guarantee you of this: NOBODY does heroin because they are happy. Heroin was a magic switch that, for a brief time, turned off those feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.
Just recently my mom walked in on me watching this video and asked me what it is about. So i explained the video to her then she say “this is bullshit. I gave you so much love when you are a child yet you grow up and having overeating problem.” Lol enough proof for this video.
Only heard 3 mins and couldn’t listen anymore given his inability to complete a simple sentence. How may drugs did this guy do?!
My addiction is the most stable thing I’ve ever had in my life
Recovering at the age of 26.. it was like unlocking a closet that my 6 year old self and 16 year old self tumbled out of, my traumatized teenaged self has been watching my traumatized child self and they’re both pissed off and visibly neglected and now my job is to take care of all 3 of us at once. I could have felt things the first time!
It’s hard to get rid of your demons. Because they were with you when no one else was.
As a dad of two boys (3 & 5) the cookie analogy spoke volumes! Acknowledge the frustration, but not punishing them for it. We communicate so much in the way we say things, not just in what we say…
As a recovering addict of 16 years, I think you have hit the nail on the head. My substance abuse, and continued non-substance related addictions (relationships, food, anger, victimhood, etc…) are firmly rooted in my trauma experienced as a child. Whenever something comes up in my life, I can clearly connect it to childhood feelings and experiences. This message needs to get out there more, especially in the recovery communities.
“The loss of self is the essence of trauma” … this hit me so hard
Try google the ” Allen carr easy way method”. It will fix some of your issues like emotional eating, and make you more mindfull on your obsessions/distractions. The obsessions/distractions/escapisms are short term gratifications that creates powerfull mental/psykologival illusjons that it makes your life better. In reality they are your worst enemy. The method may fix symptoms like some of your addictions/obsessions, but the real problem is the unressolved trauma. There is nothing wrong with you!. It is just trauma in the brain. And the brain has a almost magical way of healing itself if you help it!. And the brain is highly adaptable even in old age. Have a great day and good luck on your journey!
I Second that message. I work at an addictions treatment centre in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada and I show this video to every single client I have and it always blows their minds. I have had clients who have said “I used to always think I did drugs because I’m a shitty, selfish person, and now I’m realizing it’s trauma-based.” Gabor Maté’s brilliant words coupled with your amazing depiction is really landing with clients and helping change sooooooooo many lives. I can’t thank you enough for making this video!
I WILL be a therapist and help people recover.
Speaking it into being.
I had a housemate once. He was heavily addictive and traumatized to the bone. One morning I came downstairs to find an empty beer bottle on the table. He had peeled off the label, leaving a layer of white paper behind. Then, using a fineliner pen he created the most gorgeously intricate design for a beer bottle ever. It could easily have been designed for a professional job.
In the middle it said: “Beer is a friend.”
We all do 💙
I hated my drug therapist when i was a kid. But i look back and realize she was the only person in my life who genuinely cared about my well being. She gave me the tools to succeed in life. She was blind, but damn, i swear that woman saw everything. Do it. You could help make actual differences in people’s life. Even if they don’t realize it at first.
@taylor Jams best wishes for her, hope you get better
@Thành Huỳnh that was when i was 14 till i was 16. Lol. I’m 27 years old now. i am doing quite well compared to where i could’ve been. But i do appreciate the sentiment. Thank you.
The high you get is your liver releasing glycogen. It stores it and releases it when there is no food. People that fast also experience it. Ive felt it once or twice while fasting. But I love food so I rarely fast.
And critical thinking skills
Its A Nuclear End Any Time now
@Carb Snobler eating disorder?
Gabor Mate is awesome. His son, Aaron, is a global treasure.
good little slave, Resource Based Economy, 7 pillars supporting the matrix
@not kerry stolcenberg …or what, “not” kerry stolcenberg?
Yes he’s amazing.
When I needed to recover from my addictive behaviors I went to professional help where I spent most of my time finding out who I was and how I got that way. It was that educational process that reconnected me to myself. I was a 54 year old guy who knew a lot of stuff but almost nothing about me. I also came to understand how living with two imperfect parents caused trauma within me that haunted me all my days. Thank you for this wonderful video.
It seems you’re describing chemical dependency as opposed to addiction. Addiction is using a substance, behavior against your better judgement with the inability to stop. The want to stop but cannot or don’t know how.
If a person compulsively uses for example alcohol, accepts the consequences, then how can it be addiction? I’ve had clients who may have been deemed “alcoholics,” however there was nothing that could stop them and they literally drank themselves to death. All we could do was support them with basic needs in their chemical dependency. One was quite content, aka happy. He enjoyed alcohol’s affects. He knew it was killing his liver, but asked me to stop trying to talk him out of it because he was okay with it. Our relationship improved for there.
it would be nice if the department of education felt the same way
@𓂀 EXACTLY
CG Kid!
Spot on!!!
As a person with an addiction for most of my 64 years, and having seen multiple therapists, I couldn’t agree more with this video. We often hide behind the theory that addiction is primarily a genetic disorder. Childhood trauma messes up our brain chemistry in ways that are life saving at the moment of trauma but destructive afterwards. My theory anyway.
Hope got well bro love your channel
Addiction is the double edged sword of safety and destruction
Like a Mack truck…
Wow, this makes so much sense
Better late than never Stephen, well done on taking the step to reconnect with yourself.
@Carl Thanks Carl. I was 54 years old and had never been Steve. I went from being son of Adelaide to husband of Roberta, but had never taken care of myself. I had a lot to learn.
Oh. My.god.
🤯
I am 56, going through the same thing, just now trying to find me.
Same…I believe its my life’s mission
I also imagine a trail of my younger selves behind me to get through my traumas, I wonder if that’s something a lot of people suffering from PTSD do
Like a Boeing 707…
So happy for you and everyone in these comments ❤️ Being the parents for ourselves we always wanted. And the best thing is, when we’re our own source of love, it never leaves us 🙂
This hit me hard. Beer is definitely my friend. Maybe my best friend. And in a fucked up way, it’s been a healthy friendship.
I might have killed myself if good ol’ beer wasn’t there to take away the pain enough that I could look at what I have, and be grateful, and see that things could be better. I truly believe that. And for that, I’m truly grateful to my addiction. Thank you beer.
Sometimes the medicine and the poison are difficult to tell apart.
But now I know that friendship needs to end.
Thanks for the idea, tried a version of this, and I think it helped me.
Same here, but I am healing and recovering. The most beautiful feeling ♥️♥️♥️
Beautifully said, Josh.
keep fighting,for yourself…..hope all went well after this comment until now
always nice to have somebody else to blame!
@Mary Molloy if you had any understanding of the effects of trauma you would not be so heartless in your comments, but it’s ok, we forgive you <3
@SandraKittyKat have had a few traumas in my life also! In fact I don’t think there is anybody who has’t by todays standards. If you read any history or hear any family stories you will realize that for the most part it’s just life!
@Mary Molloy But you’re missing the point that not everyone starts off with the same toolbox to deal with trauma. It’s not about blaming someone or something less, it’s about understanding why someone went down this path and what we can do to repair/heal from that trauma. Accountability is a big part of that process but so is self-discovery, self-love, and forgiveness for yourself and the ones that have hurt you. That’s the path to truely healing trauma.
Beer. Mother, brother……. secret loverrrr
I have also suffered with addiction for many years different forms and I’m 64. I just started with a therapist a month ago and I told him exactly what this video says. Trauma has caused the absence of who I am….. I never had a chance for me to develope it’s like a void.
How can addiction be genetic if any one can start smoking and be addicted to nicotine…
I struggle with porn/masturbation addiction so trust me brother I feel you addiction can be anything. Let’s keep educating and following dr. Gabors mate’s advice… it will save us. I’m praying you 🙏😀
Omg this is a legit thing? I sometimes talk to my younger self/selves and try to take away their trouble or their pain.
@Romya I do believe so. God knows at least we in the comment section find it to be helpful.
Me too. I’ve learnt to suppress my feelings and be too nice with poor boundaries for 40 years.. now I’m ill ..I’m going to fix this
@CashCow Hang in there, you’re worth it! 🙏🏾❤️
Thank you for sharing I’ve had issues with food, anger and porn. I realize that my issues of being not good enough as a child have led me to hide myself because I’m not allowed to have my own feelings and needs. It manifested in my marriage and I was dying inside as I was denied love sex and affection for years. I’m determined to get healthy for my kids sake.
I teach personal finance at the middle school! and obviously if I’m here I’m into personal growth.
I Hear and feel your pain Josh , I’m also struggling with Heroin Addiction it was the same as me , It’s So Sad that we have to go to these Measures just to feel Normal . God bless you my Brother Stay strong 💪 Love and Respect from Australia
@Callie Davis Yes. Left wing, right wing, same bird.
Only Coward Convince Himself As Brave Men , Brave Men Don’t
@influential MLM Cult Secret Society What? Can you rephrase, cause that doesn’t make any sense.
@Zero yes you are right 🤗
My mum once shouted at me to shut up, from then on I knew annoying kids don’t get loved and I saw so many similar patterns in my life
You can do it my friend. I was meth addict for 5 years now clean for 2.
I hope you’re doing ok right now. You’re not alone and we love you.
And kids who are not loved get angry.
U r breaking the chain, they say acknowledging a problem is 80% of the solution, so since u r watching this you are well on the way!
My mother would have said and done the exact same as yours, I feel your pain (for real) reading she said that to u.
My therapist told me that my mother would never get better. Too many walls up and no signs of a positive response. It kind of helped cuz no more expectations.
Keep fighting, we’re changing the collective consciousness one healing video at a time❤️
I feel you on the over eating my father traumatised me about my weight my entire childhood. Kept food from me would let me go to friends parties an
Hang in there.
I overcame my addiction with yoga and meditation. If I could give you one advice then it’s this one . Because yoga and meditation connects you to your true self . Try it ♥️🙌
♥️💪
@Zero i like that. Perfection is a condition of hopelessness. Maybe her definition of perfection is different. Spiritual. U are whole and fine and complete as is- at your essence- and nothing needs changing- at a soul level.
@GummyJellies But loving yourself also doesn’t mean you can’t improve.
At the end of the line, only you decide when to stop improving.
@bob james wow! Way to own your addiction! My husband struggles too. But we are working on it. Im proud of him.
@marie racicot
Thank you 🙏
@grumpysquid
HALLELUJAH 🙏
Reconnecting with your self, what a concept! ! Reminds me of what a philosopher said thousands of years ago; “ KNOW THYSELF First, and you
will know all things “ or how about that green alligator who said; I have met
the enemy and it is us !” In other words- be part of the solution, not
part of the problem!
Thank you for the insight 👍.
Sorry that happened.
DAMN!!!
Me tooo my throat got so heavy on that one
Now THATS deep
Remember the third path